If this happened to you, here are several survival steps based on Susan Sawyer’s article found in www.ideaexchange.com.
1. Consider the source of your suspicion.
If you “heard it from a friend who heard it from his officemate who heard it from another friend she’s been fooling around,” look for more reliable information. Hearsay is still hearsay.
2. Make sure that jealousy and insecurity are not making you falsely accuse someone you care about.
3. Trust your instincts. If you think that your girlfriend is cheating on you, then ask her. If her answer is, “oh, no baby. Of course not! How could you even ask me about such a thing? You know I love you and only you,” then good for both of you. But still don’t accept this as 100% true. Make sure your mistrust is based on something you witness or experience.
4. Consider your physical health and emotional well-being. As crass as they sound you should think about these questions: could she be putting you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases? Can you deal with being one of many?
5. Notice a change in your relationship or behavior. Seeing her with someone else, who looks clearly to be more then a friend, is pretty much as solid evidence.
6. Think about what you tell a sibling r a best friend to do if they are in your situation. Is fear keeping you from following your own advice?
7. Discuss your feelings with your girlfriend. Tell her how her cheating is distressing you. Explain what you’re looking for in this relationship.
8. Hear out what your girlfriend has to say. Her response to your concerns should give you the information you need to do what is right for you.
9. Be man enough to inform your girlfriend decision whether it is to forgive her and start over, have a brief separation while you figure out what to do.
10. This does not have to get ugly. Wait until you are able to address this issue as rationally as possible. Regardless of her cheating, remember that you cared about her once, and or still may. You don’t need to console her, but you will feel better about yourself if you take the high road.
Sawyer says if your girl cheats on you once, shame on her! If she cheats on you
twice or more, well, you know the rest.
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